Obsessing Over Your Own Happiness Makes You Less Happy
Happiness is a worthy pursuit. But fixating too much on achieving it often leads to bad feelings when you fall short—which ultimately makes you less happy.
That’s the finding of a new study published in the journal Emotion. “Imagine someone going to a birthday party, and midway through the event they realize they are not as happy as they were expecting to be,” says lead author and social psychologist Felicia Zerwas, who was a doctoral student at the University of California-Berkeley when the research was conducted and is now a postdoctoral researcher at New York University. “One might just acknowledge that it is a fact of life and birthday parties. Or, one might judge it, thinking how sad and disappointing it is.”
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This second way of thinking, the research shows, is the problematic type. “Over time, infusing potentially positive moments with negativity can accumulate to undermine well-being—similar to the way plaque might build up in arteries and und..