9 Things to Say When Someone Asks Why You’re Not Drinking
More people are drinking less alcohol—and sometimes, their friends take that personally. People who have ditched booze describe being hammered with questions about why they’re staying sober, treated like they’re sucking all the fun out of the room, or, if they’re women, inevitably asked if they’re pregnant.
Being prepared with a handful of comebacks when you’re encouraged to drink—or asked why you’re abstaining—can help you stick to your goals and diffuse any tension. Here, experts and sober influencers share their favorite go-to responses.
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“Well, alcohol was really impacting my mental health.”
In 2020, during the long pandemic days when it felt like there was little to do but drink, Madeline Forrest realized she had a problematic relationship with alcohol. Overdoing it, which became a daily norm, “gave me crippling anxiety in the morning,” she recalls. “Even if people assured me, ‘You didn’t do anything,’ I couldn’t remember, and it sent me into th..